Dear Miss LAJA,                               

I want to try new things but I’m afraid of the outcomes. I feel like what if I’m not good enough? Or what if others don’t appreciate what I do? I’m young and I have nothing to loose but most of all when I’m older, I don’t want to regret NOT having done anything. I want to do something with myself but I’m overwhelmed by my doubts. What do I do?

-Skeptical Lion

Dear Skeptical Lion,

We all have our doubts and insecurities but if you really want to do something, you’ll have to fight to overcome them. Like you said, you have nothing to lose but you’ll regret NOT trying if you don’t do something now. When you want to try new things, you usually don’t know what to expect but you don’t learn anything if you don’t do something. What I’m trying to say is you have to start from somewhere. Do something you love and overtime, your confidence builds. It’ll surprise you that people will benefit from your hard work. As for your fear of being accepted, who cares? People will always be skeptical when you start new things because it’s unusual. You’ll have to show them what you’re offering is worth their time. As long as it’s something you love, there will always be people who appreciate you and people who don’t. Why waste your time on people trying to bring you down? As long as you have God, determination and those to encourage you, haters can fall into a canal.

Always remember that success has many friends… and enemies. J

I used to be so scared of trying a center parting on my hair because I thought it wouldn’t suit me. I wanted to try something new so while I was getting my hair done, my stylist was about to do my usual slant parting but I told her I want a center parting. She was surprised because she knows how I much I hate (or used to hate) it. She also made my braids shorter than I usually have it which made me very worried but here’s the outcome and I ended up LOVING it! This might not be a hardcore example but you get my point?


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