LAJAdages, Your Quotes #7

I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here


 What’s comes to your mind after reading this adage? There’s no right or wrong answer so don’t feel you need to have some genius epiphany (equally great if you do!)

 

 
Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!

 

Always,
Miss LAJA

LAJAdages, YourQuotes #6

 
I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here


 What’s comes to your mind after reading this adage? There’s no right or wrong answer so don’t feel you need to have some genius epiphany (equally great if you do!)

 

 

Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!

 

Always,
Miss LAJA
 
 

Ika Adage #14: Swim

 
 
You’re on a journey to a final destination where you have to swim to get there. Its a process of continuous, repetitive steps; swing your arms, flap your feet, breath and repeat. As the journey progresses, the ubiquitous routine gets boring, repetitive. Your arms and leg get tired and frustration seeps in; Am I there yet? Why am I not there already? Doubt trickles in as well and you start to question; Maybe I’m not swimming fast enough. Maybe I’m too weak. Will I make it till the end? Why did I decide to do this? This is stupid. My arms hurt. My legs are cramping. Then suddenly, you’re soaked with panic and start splashing around frantically looking for another way out, forgetting that you’re still surrounded by water… and the final destination is still yet to come. 
 

Then you become horrifyingly aware of the ever increasing burns in your muscles. Your lungs are filling up and your panic level is multiplying. You’re drowning. The final destination is way too far. I will never make it. Why am I drowning, you say. Well, maybe because you’ve stopped swimming. It is boring and is taking too long, you say. Maybe you underestimate the the importance of swinging your arms and flapping your feet. Maybe you neglect the fact that you’re a lot closer to where you’re going than where you’re coming from. 

Because you fail to look back and appreciate how far you’ve come. Because you fail to realize that the mind is a powerful place and thoughts can cripple as much as they can build you. Maybe you don’t yet understand that you are what you think. Because you become so caught up in the final destination that you forget to focus and appreciate the journey. Maybe you thought it would be easy but now realize how wrong you were. You forgot that it doesn’t matter how fast or slow you’re moving but with each swing of your arms, each flap of your feet, with each inhalation and exhalation, you’re pushing yourself farther away from the starting point and closer to ending point.

The crippling cramps remind you that stopping is a lot worse than slowing down. Then you realize that despite everything, you’re moving and there’s no point going back. That you’re far too deep to not make it all the way. That it’s either you hug the ocean and become one with it or keeping swinging, flapping and breathing; but you cannot do both simultaneously. That it’s okay to cry because the this same ocean will wipe away your tears and comfort you. That it’s okay to take a break, tread, feel the sun on your skin, inhale the salty air while learning a thing or two from your surroundings. 

Maybe it is then you will see those ahead of you, those behind you and understand that you’re not alone. That these people are also going through the same thing you are. Then, you will be appreciative of where you’ve come from, where you are and be motivated to keep moving. You will be grateful for the mere fact that you’re still breathing because you will see people hugging and becoming one with the ocean before your very eyes. You will also see people fighting their way through and you will wonder how they’re doing it. Then, you will understand that they didn’t stop. That they might have slowed down, flipped on their back, or changed their swimming technique but they did not stop.

So you will keep swimming because the ocean has hugged many and many have hugged the ocean.
 Because you understand that this is an eternal, deadly embrace where the beginning and the end become one. 
So you keep swimming because you will not be one of them.

 
Keep swimming,
Miss LAJA

LAJAdages, Your Quotes #5

I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here

 


 

 What’s comes to your mind after reading this adage? There’s no right or wrong answer so don’t feel you need to have some genius epiphany (equally great if you do!)

 

 

Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!
Always,
Miss LAJA

LAJAdages, YourQuote #4

I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here

 

 

 What’s comes to your mind after reading this adage? There’s no right or wrong answer so don’t feel you need to have some genius epiphany (equally great if you do!)

 

 

Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!


Always,
Miss LAJA

 

LAJA Adages, Your Quotes #3

I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here

 

 

 

 What’s the first thing that comes to your mind after reading this adage? 

 

 

 

Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!
Always,
Miss LAJA

LAJA Adages, Your Quotes #2

I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here

 

 

 

 What’s the first thing that comes to your mind after reading this adage? 

 

 

 

Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!

 

Always,
Miss LAJA

LAJA Adages, Your Quotes #1

 
I find it interesting seeing how people of different backgrounds, cultures etc react to the same adage. I had a conversation with 5 people on theirs. See them below and read mine here
 What’s the first thing that comes to your mind after reading this adage? 
Comment it below and let’s have a discussion!

Always,
Miss LAJA

Ika Adage #13: Black Goat



Literally speaking, it’s going to be a lot more difficult finding a dark anything when night falls. Looking for a black goat at night time? Good luck with that. You’ll put in more resources, time and there’s really no guarantee you’ll ever find. Unfortunately. This quote could be applied to two aspects; opportunities and relationships.


In relation to opportunity, I believe this adage is referring to those rare, once-in-a-lifetime opportunities that cross your path or in fact, any opportunity in general. If you don’t snatch it while it’s there, if/when it slips through your fingers, it’s significantly more difficult to come across it again; sometimes, you never do. The amount of sweat, blood and tears you’ll have to go through to get that one shot at that one thing you once took for granted… It’s rather painful but if you believe it’s worth it, you’ll find the will to push through. I always like to believe that every disappointment is a blessing. You might end up finding a cow or a deer on your quest for the goat. You know, because cows and deers casually run around at night. But seriously, it’s better to see what could be than continuously obsess over what could have been.

There are several reasons that can cause you to miss out on an opportunity; fear, self-doubt, bad company etc. The doubt or fear usually comes with experiencing something unfamiliar or something where you don’t know the outcome. That’s the more reason you should say yes because who knows where it could lead you to? It’s a lot better than that nasty feeling of regret or “uhh I wish I did it” when the opportunity is long gone. I don’t think anyone is ever 100% ready for anything. There will always be that “Am I really doing this? Should I really do this?” thought at the back of your mind. Seriously, just do it. Pursue that black goat in daylight. It’s not going to sit down waiting for you to catch it. Duh.

Relationship wise, I’m talking platonic, romantic and personal. A black goat in this case connotes negativity. Perhaps you notice an adverse trait in a friend, significant other or even yourself. It is better to fix it or cut it off before things spiral out of control. How does he or she talk about other people to you? It could reflect how they would talk about you to other people.How about signs of physical, verbal or emotional abuse? Do you leave the person feeling drained or empowered? Again, realizing this early on, addressing it and coming to the best decision for you is essential. Waiting till you’re stuck in too deep makes things more complicated and a lot harder to de-tangle yourself from.It’s easier said than done (especially when emotions are involved) but having the right people around you and admitting there’s an issue really goes along way. Sometimes the best decisions for you aren’t the easiest to make.

This quote spoke to me on so many levels, I hope it speaks to you on that thing too.

Always,
Miss LAJA

Ika Adage #12: Eyes

This summer I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and reflection. I’m the kind of person that actually enjoys spending quite a bit of time alone thinking. I talk to myself sometimes a lot and yes, I’ve been caught on several occasions. Eekk! Some call it meditation, some reflection but whatever your label preference, I believe it’s highly essential to figure out who you are as an individual. Just like getting to know someone, getting to know YOU takes time and realistically speaking, effort. It’s not something that happens overnight but overtime.
Relating this to the quote, only you know and can determine what’s best for you. You can’t depend on others to decide what direction your life goes in. It’s actually the worst if you’re constantly depending on public opinion before taking the next step (whatever that may be). Public opinion is fleeting and people can (and will) never be satisfied. I’m an optimist but I’ve realized you’ll die trying if you decide to go down that route.  Mind you, advice is great because having different views on a topic gives you a multidimensional view. It comes in handy during those times you get caught up in your head and need someone to talk sense into you. I always take advice as a means towards a new direction on an issue. However, you cannot allow it dictate your life.
I feel so emotional about this topic of self-discovery because I’ve seen full blown adults, I mean I-graduated-college-15-years-ago adults who lack a firm grasp of who they are as individuals. One of my biggest fears is graduating and not knowing why I made the decisions I made. Why I chose the academic I did or participated in the extracurricular activities I chose to. Did I do it because I valued it in some way or because it was expected by others? 

 I always like to think that college years is the period where you can do what you want, try new things, experiment and really get to learn more about you. You don’t have to worry about bills that have to be paid or bosses that are pains in derrière. While you’re closer to the “real world” as they say, you’re still shielded from it. In this bubble, you have the opportunity to work on your self-esteem, learn how to take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally free from all that pressure. Take the time to figure out your likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses etc. You can take (smart) risks without worrying too much about the consequences. You can travel, go sky-diving, go snorkeling, or start a club. The list is endless. One of my biggest fears in this life is waking up as a grown-ass adult and having no idea why I’m doing what I do or even worse, wishing I had “done that instead”.  It scares the crap out of me.

If there’s something you want to do or experience, do it regardless of public opinion. You can’t live your life through and for others. Don’t get it twisted, this doesn’t apply if it’s something stupid, dangerous or clearly not right for you. The earlier you build a firm grasp on your individuality, the less likely you are to fall for crap and the more likely you are to pursue what you truly want for yourself. You need to realize and accept that you’re worth the time and effort. Get to know yourself the way you’d want someone to get to know you. Spend time alone and do things for you. It’s not being selfish or conceited because if you truly want to help and be of help to others, you need to be your best. This is a topic I’m very passionate about so I can go on and on but you can find resources on self-discovery and self-love all over the World Wide Web.
Like I said, learning about you takes time and as nice as it’d be to write a guide,  “LAJA 101: How I Figured Me Out In 4 Years And Now Slay Life”, I know it’ll go way beyond my college years.  You know that yummy feeling in your gut when you’re closer to figuring out a puzzle than you were before? Yes, that feeling. Strive for that sensation with yourself every day. It never gets old. 

Cheers to self-love and self-discovery! 

Always,
Miss LAJA